A divorce with children is complex and upsetting. However, it can be a huge opportunity for you. Remember that being the best person that you can be will absolutely help you get the best possible legal and emotional result in your divorce. Understand that in the eyes of a Court, if you have children your divorce isn’t about you. The lodestone of your divorce will be the best interests of your children. No one has ever come out looking bad to a Family Court Judge during a divorce, when they made taking the best possible care of the children the primary focus of their divorce. Putting your children first and demonstrating that set of values to a Court serves several functions.
First, mentally focusing on your children takes you out of your preoccupation with self. It enables you to focus on the children rather than your legal and emotional situation. It helps you avoid selfish behaviors which will look bad in Court. Prioritizing your children takes care of the only individuals who are truly completely innocent in a divorce. Your actions will reflect what your value system is to a Court. If your ex-spouse acts in their own interests rather than the children’s, it demonstrates where their value system is lacking and will hurt them in Court. Your selfless actions in favor of the children will help you maintain or increase custody. You will be preserving your family. This is a leadership opportunity for you. This is an opportunity to demonstrate your character and at the same time get a more positive result in your divorce.