I had mentioned exercise in an earlier post and I want to discuss it a bit more in depth as I think that it is very important to get as much exercise as you can during the divorce process. It can be lifesaving. It can lead you to a better you.
As I had mentioned, exercise has a multitude of benefits. I have seen many men and women after the breakup of their marriage, fail to take care of themselves and fall into depression. Many people drown their sorrows in alcohol and are by drinking, essentially self-medicating their depression. These people gain weight and tend to look harried and worn. Frankly, this sets a bad example for your children and can begin to affect your job. If your physical presence degrades, many will make the perhaps false assumption that the quality of your work or your parenting has likewise degraded. People tend to judge a book by its cover.
I cannot give you any secrets as to what exercise to do. However, I strongly suggest the use of weights. I suggest joining a gym and getting training on how to lift weights effectively, correctly and safely. While I am not a strong advocate for home exercise, I think PX90 is a good program if you are embarrassed to go to a gym. Also, CrossFit, when you are handled appropriately by your trainer, can also be transformational. However, anything including running, bicycling, dance, hiking, horseback riding can be helpful. The important part is to get exercise with good frequency.
As far as weightlifting I would strongly suggest getting to a trainer and getting them to teach you how to squat, conventional deadlift, standing military press, bench press, incline press and perform pull ups. If you concentrate on these exercises as your primary focus and follow a healthy diet, you can make transformational changes that are huge. There are tons of websites proffering opinions including:
Take a look. Get started. Take care of yourself. If you take care of yourself and work towards being your best self, your divorce will be that much easier and you will emerge a stronger and better you.