Exercise!

It is important to take care of yourself physically while you are in the middle of a divorce.  As I have stated, it is very easy to fall into alcohol and other forms of self-medication to deal with the emotional fallout from the divorce.  I have heard it said that divorce is like a death, only a death that lasts for two years.  It is easy to focus on the divorce and your eroded relationship with your ex-spouse and blame them for your misery and anger.   They are your constant enemy never far from your mind.  You need to focus your negative emotions on something that will result in more positive results.  Might I suggest, going to the gym and lifting weights. 

Lifting weights is a great exercise for men and women – in particular women, who need weightbearing exercise to fight osteoporosis and osteopenia.  It also has the secondary salutary effect of keeping you out of the bar and frankly, it positively enhances your appearance.  Exercise is a great anti-depressant and the science completely supports this. 

I would suggest going to the gym of your choice and asking a trainer to teach you how to squat and deadlift.  If you cannot afford a trainer, then You Tube has innumerable videos that give you the nuts and bolts of squatting and deadlifting correctly.  These should be the core of your workouts with pull ups, dumbbell bench press and dumbbell incline press and finally standing military press with a barbell being the other base exercises.  If you do these exercises, you can with a healthy diet make enormous changes to your life and your appearance.  Plus, when you walk out of the gym, I would bet you will feel tired, but much better emotionally then when you first walked in the door. 

Exercise. 

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